Someone once asked Reb Noson how he could be happy when he had so many problems and difficulties. Reb Noson answered, “Borrow the happiness!” (Siach Sarfei Kodesh 1-736).
When it comes to money, we rarely hesitate to borrow against future earnings. Well, sadness makes a person feel he’s missing something. The thing to do, as Reb Noson advises, is to borrow from whatever you can think of that makes you happy.
Besides, there’s a big difference between owing money and owing happiness. When money is paid back, it hurts a little. But with happiness, when we pay it back, we have happiness again!
When we fall into hard times, many of us make the mistake of thinking that when we experience darkness, it’s because of our sins, mistakes, and failures. But the truth is that when people are experiencing darkness, it is because the Creator turned off the light. If the Creator would want to turn on the light, even the darkest hour will shine like the brightest day.
For that, you need faith. Because it is very, very easy for a person to fall into sadness and depression, to self-blame, to self-hatred, and to not recognize the hand of the Creator in what one is going through.
It is very easy to praise the Creator (Hashem), and to recognize His G-dliness when we experience miracles and wonders, and happy things in life. But when something hard is happening in our life, the natural thing to do is to blame ourselves instead of recognizing the G-dly Supervision of the Creator in our life – making the hours even darker…